Accepting Yourself Won't Get You Laid
Written by Alex
Hey Tribe,
Welcome back!
You’re probably familiar with this movement.
“Just accept yourself.”
It’s either used by fat, lazy people to cover the fact they can’t get their damn ass up, or by hotties to justify nudes. Yes, remember when tumblr was a thing? Lots of accounts of hot girls posting nudes as “accept yourself”
Anyway.
You’re probably on this list because you already think this is bullshit. But let’s dive a little deeper.
Acceptance vs. acceptance
There are two very different forms of acceptance you should be aware of. And I struggled for a while to find a word that differentiates them better. If you know a word, please let me know!
One is the acceptance that who you are right now, is you. The best thing you can be. And as it should be.
The other is the acceptance that who you are right now, is NOT you. Not the best thing you can be, but you are aware of your flaws.
The first one always ends in depression.
I mean, imagine yourself being fat, lazy, useless. You achieve nothing. You grind on the Dollar to somehow survive, merely exist. And this IS you. And nothing you can do about it.
Why would you not be depressed about this?
Might as well kill yourself, if there really is nothing to do about your current situation.
And a lot of people do.
Because we tell them “it is what it is.”
God I hate that statement.
Reality is what you make of it!
And telling people that they already are perfect, and awesome as they are with 19 damn years old is very, very dangerous!
Acceptance of flaws
What our ancestors knew and which is the healthier version is accept your current state is flawed. But there is LOTS OF ROOM FOR IMPROVEMENT.
Sorry, for the allcaps, I get a bit emotional about this.
Everyone has issues, and things that should be fixed. Or be better. Me included. And I accept who I am right now. But that doesn’t mean I can’t get better each day!
This way your life isn’t a sad tragedy. You’re not “supposed” to be that fat loser who achieves nothing. It’s just who you are right now.
You can be ANYTHING.
It’s hard to tell people who are still plugged into the Matrix that they can be an actor if they want.
Or a rockstar.
And you’re probably fighting this in your head right now as well.
But you can!
Most famous people (if this is really something to strive for, I wouldn’t recommend) had to work SHIT jobs in their early careers. Grinding hard to get that audition which started their career.
They didn’t work at Starbucks and think “This is all I can do.”
They accepted their stage of life to be what it is in this moment, but that it is exactly that. A stage. A milestone.
Wherever you are right now in your life. This isn’t your endgame.
You have so much potential!
USE IT!
Improve yourself first. Hit the gym, eat properly, go out and talk to people. IMPROVE YOURSELF!
Accept where you are right now. It’s crucial to not hate yourself. Love yourself.
You’re like a lump of coal that can be turned into a diamond.
Just needs a bunch of rough edges to be fixed before you can shine.
Cheers,